Body shame.

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America is obsessed with football. I just can’t imagine what’s so exciting watching burly men in tights throw and catch a ball, drinking lots of booze, eating unhealthy foods and occasionally laughing at funny commercials. Maybe I will watch Lady Gaga’s performance though. Read about previous Super Bowl day story here: Love for Football.

Additional to football, America is obsessed with physical appearance, particularly being big and fit like football players. This body obsession is more common within the gay community.

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But for me, I sometimes find myself attracted to extremely big guys who are not afraid to display non-masculine character traits. I recently went out on a date with someone who is fat and fem.

Miller is in his early 30’s, a big guy who is working on weight loss. I met him at a theater last summer when I dropped my drink on the floor and splashed all over him. It was a bit embarrassing. Then, about a month later, my friend had a birthday dinner gathering at a restaurant and one of his co-workers and his friends were there. Among that group was Miller. He sat next to me and we talked for a bit, while guarding my drink to not spill all over him again. We exchanged phone numbers but never contacted each other.

Few months ago he messaged me on Grindr and I didn’t think he remembered me, but how can he forget about the drink spilled disaster. He then asked me out on a date. I hesitated, but agreed. He made the plans to meet at a diner-ish restaurant. For a first date, it felt odd to be dining in a place where they served tuna melt, which is actually what I ordered. No shame! It was fucking good. I also judged a little that he had a goal of losing weight yet at a restaurant that’s likely to be against that goal based on the menu choices. He did order salad, so I shouldn’t judge much.

Throughout the date, I was bored. Though he seemed like a nice guy, I do think physical fitness is an important factor when it comes to my choice of men. Not that you have to be a perfect gym body, but I consider myself an active guy. Not that Miller is inactive, but I prefer to be with someone who can share the lifestyles we are both mutually interested in. I guess for me fems are ok, but no fats.

Gosh, I sound like a picky bitch.

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