Straight AF

Two years ago, I wrote a blog about 10 dating principles as part of new year’s goal. As I review this, I have deviated from some of these values at times. Very first one is he must be single! That means not married (even if separated) or have a boyfriend or any other serious committed long term relationships. Apparently, I can’t even stick to rule # 1 because I constantly encounter guys who are not single.

One of them was Wade, whom, oddly, I connected with on OkCupid. He didn’t have face photos (just body parts obviously) but his profile intrigued me. He is 35, white guy, who is into outdoor activities and beer. I clicked on “like” and OkCupid let me know we were a match. I messaged him first then we used Snapchat to…. you know, snap and chat.


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keep it in the closet

I saw a movie called The Imitation Game. It is based on a true story about Alan Turing, a British computer scientist who essentially pioneered internet over 70 years ago during World Wart II. Without Alan Turing, AOL,, Manhunt, Grindr, Skruff, Jack’d, or Tinder would have been in my life.

Alan Turning was known to be a homosexual and as you can imagine, this was not a hot thing 70 years ago. He was engaged to be married to a woman to mask his real life in society and this practice still exists now.

imagesI hooked up with Zach few times. Zach was in his late 40’s, white, blond-grayish hair, blue eyes, with a nice built body. He was married…  to a women, but enjoyed sex with guys sometimes. It was soooo Brokeback Mountain, minus the cowboy camping sex. But, sex with Zach, who really enjoyed being a bottom, was just as hot and I particularly remember one session when he pinned me against the wall from behind to kiss my neck and I was so turned on from this.

But it was not a turn on, when I ran into him WITH his wife in the street. It’s always awkward to see your fuck buddies outside of bedroom fully clothed, but to see them with the person they are in a relationship with is even more awkward.


Zach and I didn’t end up falling in love like Jack and Ennis, but I certainly helped him to fulfill his gay sex desires. Maybe his wife is also gay and has sex with women on the side.