Body shame.


America is obsessed with football. I just can’t imagine what’s so exciting watching burly men in tights throw and catch a ball, drinking lots of booze, eating unhealthy foods and occasionally laughing at funny commercials. Maybe I will watch Lady Gaga’s performance though. Read about previous Super Bowl day story here: Love for Football.

Additional to football, America is obsessed with physical appearance, particularly being big and fit like football players. This body obsession is more common within the gay community.



But for me, I sometimes find myself attracted to extremely big guys who are not afraid to display non-masculine character traits. I recently went out on a date with someone who is fat and fem.

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Boring Date

I met Mike last summer after chatting with him in Grindr. He is few years younger than me white guy who works in real estate. We exchanged phone numbers to flirt some more.

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We also exchanged photos of ourselves. He has dark hair, full beard, and a pair of trendy glasses. Most of his photos were with his cute puppy. I am a biggest sucker for a guy with a cute dog. I’d say Mike is somewhat of a bigger figure but I wouldn’t call him fat. Despite this, he had to defend himself about his shape.

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We met for drinks and apps at a local bar. Mike is from New England and I am from Florida, so we naturally clashed like the weather differences of these two regions.

He mostly complained about many things in life. I know I can get bitter at times, but it was definitely not a pleasant to spend an hour hearing his unhappiness in life. As boring as this blog entry is, Mike was boring to talk to. Perhaps, he felt the same because we both never contacted each other.

Read Awkward First Date, which is about Harry, another boring date I had many years ago. 

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About 5 years ago, I was at a bar and saw this guy who looked like an older version of Justin Timberlake. I walked up to him to confirm if he was actually Justin Timberlake. He was very flattered to hear this. 

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His name is Harry, not Justin, who is about 5 years older than me, white, super tall, dark hair, and has a Long Island’ish accent that was almost intimidating.

We met up for coffee next day. The interaction was so different from the exciting conversation we had at the bar. We talked about 3 top things you should never talk about on a first date: religion, politics, and ex-boyfriends. After we talked about those,  we ran out things to talk about. There were many long awkward silences… about 10 minutes of it. 


To bring sexyback, I try to give everyone a second chance if first date didn’t go well. We went to a swanky bar and had a bottle of wine. I was hoping he would be more relaxed with some wine. This time not only he was boring, but he seemed to have a bitter attitude. It’s too bad, because I really like Justin Timberlake. 


See The Guyliner’s blog about first date: 33 lies you will tell yourself on a first date.