Exchange saliva, not phone numbers

Though going out to a club to dance all night is not my top preference, I enjoy it once in a while. Usually, I am dancing on my own.


But I met many boys, some of which I dated for a bit. Read about them here: ScottLiamStanGary, and Will 

One night at a club, while I was dancing on my own, I met  Seth, a cute white hipster’s boy with dorky glasses and ginger beard. Totally my type!! It happened really fast, but as soon as I started to dance with him, we were sucking faces.


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when hooks ups show up

Recently, I went to party and there were a bunch of other gaysians there, along with someone I had a one time thing from Grindr about 4 years ago. His name is Carl, who is in his 40’s and has his own consulting business.

We live pretty close by and Carl came over to my place on his way to get a hair cut on a Saturday afternoon. Carl literally has the hottest body I ever touched.


We did exchange phone numbers but we never saw each other until this party. So there I am at the party and Carl walks in with his boyfriend. We both looked at each other but eye contact was awkward as I didn’t know if he would recognize me.


He did come up to me and said “good to see you.” I sorta melted a little from his handshake.

Throughout the party, Carl and I had a good conversation. I also talked to his boyfriend (who is also a gaysian) whom I really enjoyed chatting with. Similar to Carl, he had an amazing body too. They have been together for 3 years but have known each other longer than that.

The very next day, Carl and his boyfriend invited me to dim sum. I was nervous at first, but surprisingly, I had a great time. In fact, it was really nice to see Carl fully clothed and getting to know him in more deeper level than this gorgeous body. Although I couldn’t stop staring at his biceps when he was reaching across the table for some sticky rice.


Would it be possible to become friends with Carl and his boyfriend? Does Carl’s boyfriend know about me? How do relationships go from a random NSA hook up to a friendship level?

Also turns out Carl is friends with Rob, someone I hooked up with after I hooked up with Carl. Read about Rob here: divorce equality too.